女人再怎么宽容，也不会忘记那种被欺负的苦楚。
欺负，就是欺骗与辜负。
骗她，辜负她对他的好，对她的热情冷漠，让她受了委屈还不能回家说。
Monday, November 03, 2008
Sunday, October 12, 2008
This is what we call service!
I received a call from the video shop which I always go to when I need to satisfy my Hong Kong drama serial addiction…
Shop guy: Harlow! It’s me! I noticed one thing!
Me: Huh, what? I’ve long returned the 家好月圆DVDs liao mah…
(good show, by the way!)
Shop guy: No la… I just wanted to say I noted that all the shows you last borrowed cast 林峰! And so I want to tell you he got new show leh!
Me: Oh…
Bla bla bla… Bla bla bla…
I was actually impressed that someone from a small video shop actually noted his customers’ purchasing behaviour and subsequently, made suitable recommendations. This is what good service should be, right? Instead of shoving me down the throat with this and that supposedly good show…
On another note, I thought the lyrics of the song is quite true, esp the ones in bold...
無心害你 - 《溏心風暴之家好月圓》主題曲
主唱︰關菊英
想一生一起 別想得這樣美
當中少不免 道別離
想歡歡喜喜 但清楚這道理
風光怎麼會沒了期
時日過 誰能成為大器
誰人全無運氣
這次抱你手臂 我怎麼竟顧忌
危難裏 我會陪著你
或是如同做戲
去到最尾會各自飛﹖
在變幻時候跟風駛里
在抉擇時候只好勢利
誰想講骨氣 最先必須有一些儲備
在抱著時候知己知彼
在對立時候爭取勝利
無非人生道理
在最壞時候必須卑鄙
在決裂時候彼此妒忌
無非人生道理
原本無心害你
Shop guy: Harlow! It’s me! I noticed one thing!
Me: Huh, what? I’ve long returned the 家好月圆DVDs liao mah…
(good show, by the way!)
Shop guy: No la… I just wanted to say I noted that all the shows you last borrowed cast 林峰! And so I want to tell you he got new show leh!
Me: Oh…
Bla bla bla… Bla bla bla…
I was actually impressed that someone from a small video shop actually noted his customers’ purchasing behaviour and subsequently, made suitable recommendations. This is what good service should be, right? Instead of shoving me down the throat with this and that supposedly good show…
On another note, I thought the lyrics of the song is quite true, esp the ones in bold...
無心害你 - 《溏心風暴之家好月圓》主題曲
主唱︰關菊英
想一生一起 別想得這樣美
當中少不免 道別離
想歡歡喜喜 但清楚這道理
風光怎麼會沒了期
時日過 誰能成為大器
誰人全無運氣
這次抱你手臂 我怎麼竟顧忌
危難裏 我會陪著你
或是如同做戲
去到最尾會各自飛﹖
在變幻時候跟風駛里
在抉擇時候只好勢利
誰想講骨氣 最先必須有一些儲備
在抱著時候知己知彼
在對立時候爭取勝利
無非人生道理
在最壞時候必須卑鄙
在決裂時候彼此妒忌
無非人生道理
原本無心害你
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Random
Love is a magical emotion, an unexplained passion you feel for someone. And you need that passion to cover that person’s flaws… so you will still love him even when you know he is an idiot, a dense blockhead, a geek, etc, etc…
Love (or is that passion?) is... if he is the only one whom you will still illogically want to be with and the one whom you still will choose for yourself, against all odds...
Call me naïve and idealistic but until now, I still don’t understand how people can fall for two people at the same time. There’s no half-heartedness nor sharing in love. Either you don’t or you love him with each and every part of your cells and you want him to be happy and you will want the best for him – and this means even if you don’t really fancy his growing beer belly or if he does something in public which you thought was kind of embarrassing…
I totally don’t understand the concept of an open relationship that my friend has been telling me about. Shouldn’t love be as simple as if two people love each other, they get together and declare themselves as an official couple? So what are all these nonsense about “Yes, you love me and I love you too, we hold hands, we kissed and we can even get into bed but NO, we are not together and definitely not a couple...We are just in an open relationship.” HUH???!!! What the hell...
Different people tell me at different times that what they want is just someone in his/her life. Someone whom they love and love them back. But the fact is ─ who don’t? But you just can’t anyhow grab anyone as a life buoy, and try to see if you can develop that magical feeling with him/her; when you are not ready for, or should I say, when you can’t even bear to visualize a lifetime ahead with him/her – but really, just to satisfy your short-term neediness. That’s selfish.
I used to believe that platonic friendship does exist. But honestly, who am I trying to kid? At some point in time, I swear, one party will fall for the other, but would just keep quiet. Quietly hoping, wishing, praying that the other one will somehow, by telepathic powers or what have you, to sense the slightly different treatment. Yet, because the receiving party has been too used to the company and care and concern, he/she won’t even realize the difference! Yet, because the giving party is so afraid of the possibility of losing the other as a close friend after laying cards on the table, and so might continue to act dumb. Platonic friendship exists only after both parties have moved on, and decided one day to be honest about the past non-platonic feel he/she has for him/her. But honestly, not everyone can do that.
Which brings me to - I don't understand how a girl can call a guy who is attached to another girl at any time to share her grievances about work, life, what have you, or even to share a joke or anything or everything under the sun. And worse, I don't understand why and how the guy can actually entertain the girl. I'm sure no sane girl in the world could tolerate knowing that there is another girl calling or messaging her man about anything and everything - major or minor. The girl is at fault. The man is also at fault. And no, don't give me the bullshit that you two are just friends - because don't all relationships begin and blossom from being there for you emotionally, mentally, what have you...
A few close friends have told me at different times that I need to verbalise more on what I think and how I feel – especially when I always give people the “Whatever” or “I don’t really care” attitude or expression – when actually, I do care a lot. They say that my thoughts are always not reflected via my actions. And that’s unhealthy and bad for me – in the long run… But – isn’t this a good way to really protect myself from getting hurt?
Love (or is that passion?) is... if he is the only one whom you will still illogically want to be with and the one whom you still will choose for yourself, against all odds...
Call me naïve and idealistic but until now, I still don’t understand how people can fall for two people at the same time. There’s no half-heartedness nor sharing in love. Either you don’t or you love him with each and every part of your cells and you want him to be happy and you will want the best for him – and this means even if you don’t really fancy his growing beer belly or if he does something in public which you thought was kind of embarrassing…
I totally don’t understand the concept of an open relationship that my friend has been telling me about. Shouldn’t love be as simple as if two people love each other, they get together and declare themselves as an official couple? So what are all these nonsense about “Yes, you love me and I love you too, we hold hands, we kissed and we can even get into bed but NO, we are not together and definitely not a couple...We are just in an open relationship.” HUH???!!! What the hell...
Different people tell me at different times that what they want is just someone in his/her life. Someone whom they love and love them back. But the fact is ─ who don’t? But you just can’t anyhow grab anyone as a life buoy, and try to see if you can develop that magical feeling with him/her; when you are not ready for, or should I say, when you can’t even bear to visualize a lifetime ahead with him/her – but really, just to satisfy your short-term neediness. That’s selfish.
I used to believe that platonic friendship does exist. But honestly, who am I trying to kid? At some point in time, I swear, one party will fall for the other, but would just keep quiet. Quietly hoping, wishing, praying that the other one will somehow, by telepathic powers or what have you, to sense the slightly different treatment. Yet, because the receiving party has been too used to the company and care and concern, he/she won’t even realize the difference! Yet, because the giving party is so afraid of the possibility of losing the other as a close friend after laying cards on the table, and so might continue to act dumb. Platonic friendship exists only after both parties have moved on, and decided one day to be honest about the past non-platonic feel he/she has for him/her. But honestly, not everyone can do that.
Which brings me to - I don't understand how a girl can call a guy who is attached to another girl at any time to share her grievances about work, life, what have you, or even to share a joke or anything or everything under the sun. And worse, I don't understand why and how the guy can actually entertain the girl. I'm sure no sane girl in the world could tolerate knowing that there is another girl calling or messaging her man about anything and everything - major or minor. The girl is at fault. The man is also at fault. And no, don't give me the bullshit that you two are just friends - because don't all relationships begin and blossom from being there for you emotionally, mentally, what have you...
A few close friends have told me at different times that I need to verbalise more on what I think and how I feel – especially when I always give people the “Whatever” or “I don’t really care” attitude or expression – when actually, I do care a lot. They say that my thoughts are always not reflected via my actions. And that’s unhealthy and bad for me – in the long run… But – isn’t this a good way to really protect myself from getting hurt?
Sunday, September 07, 2008
SMS conversation…
...
...
Gal: Are you feeling better?
Guy: OK.
Gal: OK means what? Fully recovered or still sniffing and sneezing away?
Guy: A bit… :p
Gal: You win... I “噼里啪啦” ask you so much -- you just act cool and give me 1-2 word answers!!
Guy: Haha.
Gal: Urgh, ok, never mind. Whatever. (sulks BIG time)
From the girl’s point of view, sometimes, when I care enough to show my concern by asking if you are getting better, couldn't you set my mind at ease by at least giving me a bit more details, instead of just 1-2 word answers (and if I catch you at a bad time when you are in the midst of back-to-back meetings, then just blardy hell tell me so).
Otherwise, the girl might think that “你把她的关心当垃圾, especially when she’s suffering from PMS…
...
Gal: Are you feeling better?
Guy: OK.
Gal: OK means what? Fully recovered or still sniffing and sneezing away?
Guy: A bit… :p
Gal: You win... I “噼里啪啦” ask you so much -- you just act cool and give me 1-2 word answers!!
Guy: Haha.
Gal: Urgh, ok, never mind. Whatever. (sulks BIG time)
From the girl’s point of view, sometimes, when I care enough to show my concern by asking if you are getting better, couldn't you set my mind at ease by at least giving me a bit more details, instead of just 1-2 word answers (and if I catch you at a bad time when you are in the midst of back-to-back meetings, then just blardy hell tell me so).
Otherwise, the girl might think that “你把她的关心当垃圾, especially when she’s suffering from PMS…
Sunday, August 31, 2008
Reflection
Bloss insisted that I have serious communication problems – that I am lousy at communicating.
“Maybe that’s why you always have problems with your vendors.”
Ouch. That hurts.
But she’s my good old pal and so, I reckon there must be some truth in it… And so, I decide to do some quiet reflection.
It all started because I was supposed to make reservations for dinner for all seven of us in the evening.
At 10:14am, I sent the following sms to Bloss and Butter:
Bubbs: “Morn, gals! In case you start chasing me, I’ll make reservations at XXX at 7? Bloss, we may need you to pick us up from town or wat, OK? Confirm later. Will sms u after I make reservations after my lessons.”
At 10:20am,
A series of SMS exchange between me and Butter… But I DID NOT receive any sms from Bloss the entire morning and early afternoon…
At 3:19 pm after I called the restaurant and realised that they have only two time slots for dinner reservations – either 5.30 pm or 8.00 pm… (I made reservations for 8.00pm.)
Bubbs: Meet at entrance of XXX at 730 pm. Bloss, can u pick us up from town? Paul’s joining us too.
At 3:20 pm,
Bloss: Orchard MRT. 630.
Bubbs: OK. I’ll let Butter noe.
At 3:22 pm,
Bubbs: Wait. 630? So early for wat? Tables only avail between 745 n 8 lei. Cos they divide into 2 slots. Either 530 or 8 slot. Say 710 at Orchard MRT.
At 3:24pm,
Bloss: I thought you said dinner reservation made for 7pm.
At 3:29 pm,
Bubbs: U din read my 2nd sms ya? 730 pm. For dinner, they have 2 slots only. 530 or 8.
At 3:31pm,
Bloss: I did. I meant when you sent the sms this morning to say reservation made for 7 pm, pple will usu understand tat to mean dinner starts at 7. That’s why I said pick you gals at 630.
At 3:33 pm,
Bubbs: Tat was morn before I made reservations mah. How I noe they got the silly 2 round thing? Then can’t get earlier cos butter got “appt” mah.
At 3:34 pm,
Bloss: Watever. 710 then.
The 2nd miscommunication came about when I did not inform Bloss I would not be taking her car to the dinner place with Butter. I only told Butter that I would not be joining her to take Bloss’ car because I would be taking someone else’s.
(OK – to which I admitted it’s my oversight - I should have dropped a sms to inform Bloss – but at that point in time, I thought it was unnecessary since Butter would have told her anyway…) And so, a series of SMSes again…
***
Bloss: Butter said you will be taking David’s car and not meeting us first, right?
Bubbs: Yes, OK right?
Bloss: OK. Just wanted to confirm because from your sms in the morning, it sounded like you are taking my car too.
Bubbs: I was planning to. But he offered and since I do not have to travel down all the way down to town…
***
Well… I admitted I should have told the one driving (and not the passenger) that I would not be taking a ride from her… but for the dinner reservations… can someone please tell me where did I go wrong in causing so much confusion?
Sigh…
“Maybe that’s why you always have problems with your vendors.”
Ouch. That hurts.
But she’s my good old pal and so, I reckon there must be some truth in it… And so, I decide to do some quiet reflection.
It all started because I was supposed to make reservations for dinner for all seven of us in the evening.
At 10:14am, I sent the following sms to Bloss and Butter:
Bubbs: “Morn, gals! In case you start chasing me, I’ll make reservations at XXX at 7? Bloss, we may need you to pick us up from town or wat, OK? Confirm later. Will sms u after I make reservations after my lessons.”
At 10:20am,
A series of SMS exchange between me and Butter… But I DID NOT receive any sms from Bloss the entire morning and early afternoon…
At 3:19 pm after I called the restaurant and realised that they have only two time slots for dinner reservations – either 5.30 pm or 8.00 pm… (I made reservations for 8.00pm.)
Bubbs: Meet at entrance of XXX at 730 pm. Bloss, can u pick us up from town? Paul’s joining us too.
At 3:20 pm,
Bloss: Orchard MRT. 630.
Bubbs: OK. I’ll let Butter noe.
At 3:22 pm,
Bubbs: Wait. 630? So early for wat? Tables only avail between 745 n 8 lei. Cos they divide into 2 slots. Either 530 or 8 slot. Say 710 at Orchard MRT.
At 3:24pm,
Bloss: I thought you said dinner reservation made for 7pm.
At 3:29 pm,
Bubbs: U din read my 2nd sms ya? 730 pm. For dinner, they have 2 slots only. 530 or 8.
At 3:31pm,
Bloss: I did. I meant when you sent the sms this morning to say reservation made for 7 pm, pple will usu understand tat to mean dinner starts at 7. That’s why I said pick you gals at 630.
At 3:33 pm,
Bubbs: Tat was morn before I made reservations mah. How I noe they got the silly 2 round thing? Then can’t get earlier cos butter got “appt” mah.
At 3:34 pm,
Bloss: Watever. 710 then.
The 2nd miscommunication came about when I did not inform Bloss I would not be taking her car to the dinner place with Butter. I only told Butter that I would not be joining her to take Bloss’ car because I would be taking someone else’s.
(OK – to which I admitted it’s my oversight - I should have dropped a sms to inform Bloss – but at that point in time, I thought it was unnecessary since Butter would have told her anyway…) And so, a series of SMSes again…
***
Bloss: Butter said you will be taking David’s car and not meeting us first, right?
Bubbs: Yes, OK right?
Bloss: OK. Just wanted to confirm because from your sms in the morning, it sounded like you are taking my car too.
Bubbs: I was planning to. But he offered and since I do not have to travel down all the way down to town…
***
Well… I admitted I should have told the one driving (and not the passenger) that I would not be taking a ride from her… but for the dinner reservations… can someone please tell me where did I go wrong in causing so much confusion?
Sigh…