吵架，生气其实真的很累人。
很多事情其实都能好说，好讲，好商量。
多站在别人的角度了解为何他（她）会作出他（她）的选择，多一点包容和体谅，也许你也会显得更英俊 / 漂亮，大方。
如果身边的人，因为知道你会生气，也知道你一定会用某一种口吻示你的不满， 而因此提心吊胆，怕前怕后不敢跟你商量；那么，这样的关系，长久下来，真的好累人。
说真的，不要也罢。。 。
口吻， 语气很重要。 切记。
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Sunday, September 05, 2010
Weekends
Dinner was nice, as usual. And super duper filling.
I wonder why we always end up having Chinese food… I thought he mentioned western food this time...
We ended up at Paradise Inn near his home and again, we ordered more than what we could finish.
Verdict: It is dangerous to order when you are starving because everything on the menu will just look so delectable and yummy!
We ordered the triple-egg prawns (which were so damn good. Not to mention, extremely sinful too! And I had wanted to lick the plate clean.), stewed bittergourd with pork ribs in fermented black bean sauce (which is his mum’s favourite dish), toufu (which I wanted) and seafood fried rice.
The fragrant floral tea, which comprises forget-me-not, lavender and some other flower petals, helped little in digestion.
**mood: happy and satisfied**
###
I was reminded, the night before and in the day, not to drink too much and stay out too late because I was – strictly speaking – still sick and on medication. I needed the rest if I were to be 100 per cent well the following week.
I agreed and I swore I really meant to leave after dinner and 1-2 glasses of beer.
And I even reminded one colleague during lunch that I would leave at about 11 pm the latest, and mentioned again during dinner to the entire company that I was sick and they could not bully me by making me drink so much.
But somehow, along the way, I forgot. The beer was quite thirst quenching and so down 1 glass, 2 glasses, so on and so forth.
It did not help when the pub started to play retro music. Retro can get me high easily – even without the influence of alcohol.
And of course, it did not help also when everyone got high. No one remembered I was – and still am – sick.
The star of the evening ordered tequila shots and B32…
And then all of a sudden, I felt nauseous and the world was spinning.
I knew I could not move. The moment I tried, I knew I would puke. I tried to control. But the nauseous feeling was getting worse and I decided I needed to get it all out of my system if I wanted to get out and home.
I moved. And the next thing I knew, all came out from my throat.
Eew.
I was given a big black trash bag thereafter and I still managed to fill up quarter of it. Woah. That’s quite a lot of puke.
It was my first time that I drank until I puked.
Big mistake.
I actually managed to dial his number in the midst of puking and all. Thought of asking him to come and pick me up. But I decided to cancel the call a few seconds later, because I could sense more puke coming and I couldn’t even talk properly then.
The next day… I was “scolded” left right centre, followed by dead silence, because I could find no legitimate reason to talk back...
“I thought you were just very sick a few days before and were on 3-day MC? Weren’t you on medication? How could you drink so much? I thought I told you to leave earlier and go home to rest.”
“Why didn’t your colleagues stop you from drinking? Don’t your colleagues know you are sick and are on medication? So how could they allow and encourage you to drink so much? Drink until puke some more… Your body is still weak and that’s why it could not handle the alcohol intake that you normally can take. I thought you would exercise more judgment and common sense than that…”
This was the bulk of what was berated at me.
Hmm… Ya, in retrospect, I guess everyone got high and no one, including myself, remembered I was sick. And ya, I totally agree I should have exercised more judgment and common sense.
And I know if I were with him or in the company of my close friends, they would definitely have my health and well-being in top of mind and they would stop me from drinking so much. And I would definitely be safe.
Oh well…
Anyway, I don’t think there will be any similar gathering soon… And if there is, I think I am barred from attending them. At least for now.
But in any case, George, all the best to you in your next career step!
**mood: guilty**
I wonder why we always end up having Chinese food… I thought he mentioned western food this time...
We ended up at Paradise Inn near his home and again, we ordered more than what we could finish.
Verdict: It is dangerous to order when you are starving because everything on the menu will just look so delectable and yummy!
The fragrant floral tea, which comprises forget-me-not, lavender and some other flower petals, helped little in digestion. Nonetheless, of course, our evening is never complete without our little sweet indulgences at my favourite place – or so he said.
Ahh… that was nice. I actually thought he would have conveniently forgotten or totally dismisses the idea.
**mood: happy and satisfied**
###
I was reminded, the night before and in the day, not to drink too much and stay out too late because I was – strictly speaking – still sick and on medication. I needed the rest if I were to be 100 per cent well the following week.
I agreed and I swore I really meant to leave after dinner and 1-2 glasses of beer.
And I even reminded one colleague during lunch that I would leave at about 11 pm the latest, and mentioned again during dinner to the entire company that I was sick and they could not bully me by making me drink so much.
But somehow, along the way, I forgot. The beer was quite thirst quenching and so down 1 glass, 2 glasses, so on and so forth.
It did not help when the pub started to play retro music. Retro can get me high easily – even without the influence of alcohol.
And of course, it did not help also when everyone got high. No one remembered I was – and still am – sick.
The star of the evening ordered tequila shots and B32…
And then all of a sudden, I felt nauseous and the world was spinning.
I knew I could not move. The moment I tried, I knew I would puke. I tried to control. But the nauseous feeling was getting worse and I decided I needed to get it all out of my system if I wanted to get out and home.
I moved. And the next thing I knew, all came out from my throat.
Eew.
I was given a big black trash bag thereafter and I still managed to fill up quarter of it. Woah. That’s quite a lot of puke.
It was my first time that I drank until I puked.
Big mistake.
I actually managed to dial his number in the midst of puking and all. Thought of asking him to come and pick me up. But I decided to cancel the call a few seconds later, because I could sense more puke coming and I couldn’t even talk properly then.
The next day… I was “scolded” left right centre, followed by dead silence, because I could find no legitimate reason to talk back...
“I thought you were just very sick a few days before and were on 3-day MC? Weren’t you on medication? How could you drink so much? I thought I told you to leave earlier and go home to rest.”
“Why didn’t your colleagues stop you from drinking? Don’t your colleagues know you are sick and are on medication? So how could they allow and encourage you to drink so much? Drink until puke some more… Your body is still weak and that’s why it could not handle the alcohol intake that you normally can take. I thought you would exercise more judgment and common sense than that…”
This was the bulk of what was berated at me.
Hmm… Ya, in retrospect, I guess everyone got high and no one, including myself, remembered I was sick. And ya, I totally agree I should have exercised more judgment and common sense.
And I know if I were with him or in the company of my close friends, they would definitely have my health and well-being in top of mind and they would stop me from drinking so much. And I would definitely be safe.
Oh well…
Anyway, I don’t think there will be any similar gathering soon… And if there is, I think I am barred from attending them. At least for now.
But in any case, George, all the best to you in your next career step!
**mood: guilty**
Sunday, July 18, 2010
A weekend of dance, dance and dance!
If only I could spin like a ballerina again!
Got the free tics for Ballet Under the Stars from Human Resources, and within a few minutes, gathered a group of 7 and off we went to watch ballet performance and stars gazing...
As it was a Friday evening, everything was done in a rush... We had to make do with fast-food dinner, chips and mineral water.
For a group of people who enjoys picnic-ing and very into picnics, this was considered a very slipshod effort. Nonetheless, we enjoyed ourselves and the performance.
The only effort thing we brought with us this time round ~ a bottle of dessert wine in a wine holder and ice... Where's our cheese platter? Strawberries, grapes? Cheesecakes? Chips? Sushi? All missing in action...
But in any case, we decided to go to a proper picnic very soon again! Looking forward!
Now... This was supposed to be a blog about the dance... and all I was blabbering about was the picnic and food... Oops...
Thought the male lead dancer was a bit stout and fat though... Oops... and we could not figure out why they were wearing SHORT tights instead of long ones... Rather unsightly, we thought...
One of the questions that popped up during the performance was "what happens if it is the time of the month for the female ballerinas?"
Wouldn't that be very uncomfortable? And also, for the guys to carry them up and down.... hmmm...
And they all turned to look at me for the answer... since I guessed I was the only person who dance in the group.
But the question kind of threw me back, because it was never an issue before at all...
"Huh? Just as per normal la... You still lift up your leg and do whatever as per normal, I guess... If not, how? As for the guys who carry you and place you above their heads... erm... like that lor! That's too bad... what to do? But the girls must practise own personal hygiene and make sure you don't smell la... hmmm..."
Sigh... It has been a very long time since I last did an en pointe and I'm pretty sure I can't do a proper one now anymore... Ever since I had a very bad sprain at my left ankle when I was 15, and the 跌打师傅 says I should no longer do an en pointe and dance anymore. Oh well....
Sachoom ~ the Korean Dancical, 80 minutes of dynamic dancing
This performance was a blast.
The Korean dancers were totally awesome. And so cute!!! And sexy!
It was honestly one of the most awesome-st dance performance I ever attended, that had all the audience totally high and engaged, and they turned the entire Esplanade theatre into a major dancing hall! How cool is that?
The wow factor was absolutely undeniable and it was totally infectious!
Also, it was the only performance at the Esplanade that allowed its audience to video tape or take photographs throughout the performance.
I was kinda skeptical abt that at first, but when I saw flashlights going off, I took out my camera to video... But when I came home to watch, somehow, the video did the performance injustice. Hah... must be me la.. dunno how to capture...
Wanted to upload one of the videos - but the uploading took so long... Oh well...
Oh oh, and it was one of the rare performances that had me sitting at the edge of my seat and totally mesmerized by all the moves and music and dancers!
So happy that I went to catch it! Worth every cent of the ticket.
And so, when it was announced that there would be a photograph session with the dancers, you coul imagine how my eyes immediately lit up!
And upon seeing the crowd, I frowned and decided not to be a friendly and polite girl for that few minutes, and squeezed my way to the front... I think I didn't even do that during Lam Fung's autograph session man...
The unruly crowd, all of whom wanted to take a photo with the dancers...
With one of the male lead dancers, Choi Him Chan, who really has a very nice bod! Swoonz...
The other male lead dancer, Choi Sung UK, is the one in the background... Wanted to take photo with him too, but when it was my turn, some auntie came and said, "Sorry, the dancers need to rest now... no more photos!" Upset!!!
With one of the female lead dancers (left), Kim Hyo Jung, as well as one of the sexy dancers, Oh In (right)
*And yes, I caught you.. Stop staring at Ms Kim's chest... Heee..
With some other dancers, (from left to right) Jin So Jeong whom we think is honestly one of the better female dancers. She's so flexible and fluid! Mun Sun Woo and Choi Joo Hwan (the guy in white), who does all the challenging moves so effortlessly! Gosh... Oh, and don't you think Mr Choi look a bit like Vanness Wu?
With another male dancer, Lee Yong Seok. I thought he has those Korean stars look... hah!
Got the free tics for Ballet Under the Stars from Human Resources, and within a few minutes, gathered a group of 7 and off we went to watch ballet performance and stars gazing...
As it was a Friday evening, everything was done in a rush... We had to make do with fast-food dinner, chips and mineral water.
For a group of people who enjoys picnic-ing and very into picnics, this was considered a very slipshod effort. Nonetheless, we enjoyed ourselves and the performance.
The only effort thing we brought with us this time round ~ a bottle of dessert wine in a wine holder and ice... Where's our cheese platter? Strawberries, grapes? Cheesecakes? Chips? Sushi? All missing in action...
But in any case, we decided to go to a proper picnic very soon again! Looking forward!
Now... This was supposed to be a blog about the dance... and all I was blabbering about was the picnic and food... Oops...
Thought the male lead dancer was a bit stout and fat though... Oops... and we could not figure out why they were wearing SHORT tights instead of long ones... Rather unsightly, we thought...
One of the questions that popped up during the performance was "what happens if it is the time of the month for the female ballerinas?"
Wouldn't that be very uncomfortable? And also, for the guys to carry them up and down.... hmmm...
And they all turned to look at me for the answer... since I guessed I was the only person who dance in the group.
But the question kind of threw me back, because it was never an issue before at all...
"Huh? Just as per normal la... You still lift up your leg and do whatever as per normal, I guess... If not, how? As for the guys who carry you and place you above their heads... erm... like that lor! That's too bad... what to do? But the girls must practise own personal hygiene and make sure you don't smell la... hmmm..."
Sigh... It has been a very long time since I last did an en pointe and I'm pretty sure I can't do a proper one now anymore... Ever since I had a very bad sprain at my left ankle when I was 15, and the 跌打师傅 says I should no longer do an en pointe and dance anymore. Oh well....
Sachoom ~ the Korean Dancical, 80 minutes of dynamic dancing
This performance was a blast.
The Korean dancers were totally awesome. And so cute!!! And sexy!
It was honestly one of the most awesome-st dance performance I ever attended, that had all the audience totally high and engaged, and they turned the entire Esplanade theatre into a major dancing hall! How cool is that?
The wow factor was absolutely undeniable and it was totally infectious!
Also, it was the only performance at the Esplanade that allowed its audience to video tape or take photographs throughout the performance.
I was kinda skeptical abt that at first, but when I saw flashlights going off, I took out my camera to video... But when I came home to watch, somehow, the video did the performance injustice. Hah... must be me la.. dunno how to capture...
Wanted to upload one of the videos - but the uploading took so long... Oh well...
Oh oh, and it was one of the rare performances that had me sitting at the edge of my seat and totally mesmerized by all the moves and music and dancers!
So happy that I went to catch it! Worth every cent of the ticket.
And so, when it was announced that there would be a photograph session with the dancers, you coul imagine how my eyes immediately lit up!
And upon seeing the crowd, I frowned and decided not to be a friendly and polite girl for that few minutes, and squeezed my way to the front... I think I didn't even do that during Lam Fung's autograph session man...
The unruly crowd, all of whom wanted to take a photo with the dancers...
With one of the male lead dancers, Choi Him Chan, who really has a very nice bod! Swoonz...
The other male lead dancer, Choi Sung UK, is the one in the background... Wanted to take photo with him too, but when it was my turn, some auntie came and said, "Sorry, the dancers need to rest now... no more photos!" Upset!!!
With one of the female lead dancers (left), Kim Hyo Jung, as well as one of the sexy dancers, Oh In (right)
*And yes, I caught you.. Stop staring at Ms Kim's chest... Heee..
With some other dancers, (from left to right) Jin So Jeong whom we think is honestly one of the better female dancers. She's so flexible and fluid! Mun Sun Woo and Choi Joo Hwan (the guy in white), who does all the challenging moves so effortlessly! Gosh... Oh, and don't you think Mr Choi look a bit like Vanness Wu?
With another male dancer, Lee Yong Seok. I thought he has those Korean stars look... hah!
Sunday, July 11, 2010
My two passions...
Think my neighbour is letting their little girl learn piano. Been hearing her playing random notes on the piano these days - even late at night at 11 plus...
I've always loved the piano. And seeing a beautiful grand piano still makes my heart skip a beat.
Even though I did not complete the eight grades... Stopped at Grade 7 for practical and Grade 6 for theory. Failed my Grade 5 theory once some more. Was scolded left-right-centre by my mum when she learnt of it. Hah!
Refused to let my mum sell my piano away. And I would still get very upset when I realised new scratches on my piano. And would ^#$^*% at my mum and brother.
When the last time I really played it was... hmmm... last year?
###
I love dance. Been dancing since young.
Chinese dance. Still remember I would take Bus 99 to Boon Lay Community Centre to learn dance with three of my cousins every Sunday. Class starts at 7 pm, ends at 9 pm.
And occasionally, we would go have McDonald's for dinner. That was simply pure bliss for a 10-year-old kid.
Simple things. Simple happiness.
We were kinda close to our teacher. He was our Dance teacher in primary school too.
He passed away when I was in Sec 4. My mum and cousins didn't tell me - for fear I would be very much affected.
Was still in dance society in secondary school. It was then that I came into contact with contemporary dance, ballet and still totally love them...
We even choreographed on our own a contemporary dance with this music -->Kitaro's Matsuri. For teachers' day celebration. Matsuri (祭) is the Japanese word for a festival or holiday.
Got rave feedback from all schoolmates. They simply love our dance and the music.
Yes, me too.
I miss contemporary dance. But realised my body is not as flexible as it used to be... I can't even do a proper split now, without yelping in pain. It is kind of depressing when I can even feel the hamstrings pulling when I do simple stretching. Big TSK.
Trying to satisfy my dancing craving through my exotic dance classes. But, hmmm... it's just different.
Sultry sexiness versus poised elegance. I prefer the latter.
I've always loved the piano. And seeing a beautiful grand piano still makes my heart skip a beat.
Even though I did not complete the eight grades... Stopped at Grade 7 for practical and Grade 6 for theory. Failed my Grade 5 theory once some more. Was scolded left-right-centre by my mum when she learnt of it. Hah!
Refused to let my mum sell my piano away. And I would still get very upset when I realised new scratches on my piano. And would ^#$^*% at my mum and brother.
When the last time I really played it was... hmmm... last year?
###
I love dance. Been dancing since young.
Chinese dance. Still remember I would take Bus 99 to Boon Lay Community Centre to learn dance with three of my cousins every Sunday. Class starts at 7 pm, ends at 9 pm.
And occasionally, we would go have McDonald's for dinner. That was simply pure bliss for a 10-year-old kid.
Simple things. Simple happiness.
We were kinda close to our teacher. He was our Dance teacher in primary school too.
He passed away when I was in Sec 4. My mum and cousins didn't tell me - for fear I would be very much affected.
Was still in dance society in secondary school. It was then that I came into contact with contemporary dance, ballet and still totally love them...
We even choreographed on our own a contemporary dance with this music -->Kitaro's Matsuri. For teachers' day celebration. Matsuri (祭) is the Japanese word for a festival or holiday.
Got rave feedback from all schoolmates. They simply love our dance and the music.
Yes, me too.
I miss contemporary dance. But realised my body is not as flexible as it used to be... I can't even do a proper split now, without yelping in pain. It is kind of depressing when I can even feel the hamstrings pulling when I do simple stretching. Big TSK.
Trying to satisfy my dancing craving through my exotic dance classes. But, hmmm... it's just different.
Sultry sexiness versus poised elegance. I prefer the latter.
Thursday, July 08, 2010
A preview to 女人心语录 3
Been doing some random reading a bit here and there, plus with the "right"emo mood... there are certain random thoughts that came to mind...
Just didn't have the time to re-arrange my random thoughts and pen it all down... but some that are still stuck in my mind are as follows... so here's a little preview...
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不要因为一时寂寞而爱错人；更不要因为爱错人而寂寞一生。
其实对方不喜欢你，你再怎么追也没用。 对方喜欢你，根本不需要挖空心思去追。
吝啬是男人的大忌。有人抱怨女人只爱男人的钱，其实也并不一定是这样。女人喜欢男人为她花钱，有时候是为了证实自己在男人心目中的位置。 男人如果喜欢一个女人，应该一定愿意为她花钱的。这就是女人的逻辑。
当然，每次只会花男人的钱的女人，男人千万要不得。 真心爱你的女人，自然也会心疼你赚钱的辛苦，也一定会对你的钱包手下留情。
暧昧是当你遇到问题解决不了的时候，你找不到你的女朋友，或者不能问女朋友的时候，甚至脑里也不会想起你的女朋友，你第一个便会想起他。
Just didn't have the time to re-arrange my random thoughts and pen it all down... but some that are still stuck in my mind are as follows... so here's a little preview...
===================================================
不要因为一时寂寞而爱错人；更不要因为爱错人而寂寞一生。
其实对方不喜欢你，你再怎么追也没用。 对方喜欢你，根本不需要挖空心思去追。
吝啬是男人的大忌。有人抱怨女人只爱男人的钱，其实也并不一定是这样。女人喜欢男人为她花钱，有时候是为了证实自己在男人心目中的位置。 男人如果喜欢一个女人，应该一定愿意为她花钱的。这就是女人的逻辑。
当然，每次只会花男人的钱的女人，男人千万要不得。 真心爱你的女人，自然也会心疼你赚钱的辛苦，也一定会对你的钱包手下留情。
暧昧是当你遇到问题解决不了的时候，你找不到你的女朋友，或者不能问女朋友的时候，甚至脑里也不会想起你的女朋友，你第一个便会想起他。