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Sunday, October 31, 2010
Saturday, October 30, 2010
A gem place for some cosy-up affairs
The visit to this place was two weeks late. Hmph.
A rustic and quiet open-concept café and bar, surrounded by lush greenery – a golf course was behind me and greenery was everywhere since next door was a nursery – Lava Edge could possibly be a place for some cosying-up cheeky business. 
In fact, when I first saw the sign from afar, I thought it was called Love edge. 
The ambience was definitely good. The background music, the comfy cushioned chairs & the just-right lightings.
I love it.
If not for the inaccessibility and invisibility (yes, this café can be considered invisible because the road leading to it is dark with minimal street lights and signage. One honestly would not have suspected that there was such a café inside), I would have recommended this place to Bloss as one of her choices for her intimate wedding.
When we reached there at about 730 pm, there were only two tables of ang moh couples, having dinner. Perhaps, the overcast sky was to blame for the poor business that night.
We ordered escargots and chickie wings (yes, I’m a sucker for chickie wings!) as appetisers. Pastas were the main course and gosh, were they in huge portions! And quite spicy too, even without shaking in my usual dosage of red and black pepper!
By then, we were super full! I didn’t even manage to finish the tail of my chickie wing and my pasta!
Several more couples and friends in duos and trios started strolling in for drinks after 10 pm.
Dinner was followed by two rounds of drinks – his super potent Mojito and Johnnie Walker on the Rocks, my Bombay-Sapphire Gin Tonic and Wild Boar cocktail (choya plus plum plus dunno what).
Next on the list are two other places. Hmmm… Can’t wait! =)
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Elitism
This topic of elitism popped up over hi-tea with Bloss one fine day.
Bloss said we are elites. That is why we are not able to understand or tolerate certain idiotic things which simply drive us nuts.
By elites, we mean we are from reputable schools – starting from secondary schools to junior colleges to finally university.
Granted, we are not Harvard nor Stanford graduates but only a lowly humble NTU and NIE graduates. Sounds ironic… but anyway..
She’s from Nanyang Girls. I’m from River Valley. And she is glad that her life partner is from Chinese High. All from special stream.
Because we are from similar qualifications and educational background, the frequency is more similar. We are able to connect better.
And she pointed out that this might be the reason why I always only honestly enjoy only those few people’s company, but always seem to dread the rest.
Which brings her to another point – she does not understand why I still waste time entertaining such people who are totally out of the league and make myself so busy and unhappy…
There was this evening recently when I kinda gatecrashed Bloss and her hubby-to-be’s clique of friends dinner and beer session.
I truly enjoyed myself that evening.
With the kind of things they were blah-ing about, the unsuspectingly-witty jokes they made and the kind of intellectual connection we all made.
And yes, they are all from reputable schools.
I brought this topic up with Nan on another occasion and to my surprise, she, too, agreed.
We are elites.
No, not that we are arrogant. But our train of thoughts and the way we are brought up and taught are just different.
That – I agreed. The difference is rather obvious in university when you get to mix with people from other junior colleges (apart from those top few) or polytechnics. Less so when you are working, but there IS a difference.
Not sure how to put it into words – but it is just different.
That said, Nan said that somehow, she fails to find the sense of “elitism-pride” in me these days. I seem to be OK to make friends out of “our league”.
But I defended myself in saying that everyone has some positive traits or characteristics that you can learn from.
Even some of the richest millionaires you see on papers these days claim they are drop-outs from school.
Yes – but they are the minority. And that is because they are already born with the brains and they have the tenacity. Nan argued. How many of these drop outs actually make it big?
Bird of the same feathers flock together.
Look at the kind of people you recently attract and hang out with (apart from the few of us), and you should know by now you are mixing with the wrong company.
I guess I understand where my friends are coming from.
Because when you mix with the "wrong" company, you need to bring yourself lower to their level, and if this continues for some time, the (low) level would become norm for me. Which is unacceptable. People only move up. They don't and shouldn't move down.
Fair enough.
This somehow reminded me of what J used to chide me, when he said he could not understand why a Hwa Chongian could hang out with people from Jurong JC. And that he used to tell me to mix only with the “right” people.
And look at the few of us. We are all established in our career now, in one way or another. Do you think you have achieved that? If the answer is no, you just need to find that competitive streak that you used to have back in you. Fast. Nan reminded. In fact, you always have it. But I don't know why you seem to suppress it...
Hmmm... I think it would be easy to find back that competitive streak. But I would also like to find back my sense of “elitism-pride”, and mix with the “right” people... ...
Hmmm... some food for thoughts for me...
Bloss said we are elites. That is why we are not able to understand or tolerate certain idiotic things which simply drive us nuts.
By elites, we mean we are from reputable schools – starting from secondary schools to junior colleges to finally university.
Granted, we are not Harvard nor Stanford graduates but only a lowly humble NTU and NIE graduates. Sounds ironic… but anyway..
She’s from Nanyang Girls. I’m from River Valley. And she is glad that her life partner is from Chinese High. All from special stream.
Because we are from similar qualifications and educational background, the frequency is more similar. We are able to connect better.
And she pointed out that this might be the reason why I always only honestly enjoy only those few people’s company, but always seem to dread the rest.
Which brings her to another point – she does not understand why I still waste time entertaining such people who are totally out of the league and make myself so busy and unhappy…
There was this evening recently when I kinda gatecrashed Bloss and her hubby-to-be’s clique of friends dinner and beer session.
I truly enjoyed myself that evening.
With the kind of things they were blah-ing about, the unsuspectingly-witty jokes they made and the kind of intellectual connection we all made.
And yes, they are all from reputable schools.
I brought this topic up with Nan on another occasion and to my surprise, she, too, agreed.
We are elites.
No, not that we are arrogant. But our train of thoughts and the way we are brought up and taught are just different.
That – I agreed. The difference is rather obvious in university when you get to mix with people from other junior colleges (apart from those top few) or polytechnics. Less so when you are working, but there IS a difference.
Not sure how to put it into words – but it is just different.
That said, Nan said that somehow, she fails to find the sense of “elitism-pride” in me these days. I seem to be OK to make friends out of “our league”.
But I defended myself in saying that everyone has some positive traits or characteristics that you can learn from.
Even some of the richest millionaires you see on papers these days claim they are drop-outs from school.
Yes – but they are the minority. And that is because they are already born with the brains and they have the tenacity. Nan argued. How many of these drop outs actually make it big?
Bird of the same feathers flock together.
Look at the kind of people you recently attract and hang out with (apart from the few of us), and you should know by now you are mixing with the wrong company.
I guess I understand where my friends are coming from.
Because when you mix with the "wrong" company, you need to bring yourself lower to their level, and if this continues for some time, the (low) level would become norm for me. Which is unacceptable. People only move up. They don't and shouldn't move down.
Fair enough.
This somehow reminded me of what J used to chide me, when he said he could not understand why a Hwa Chongian could hang out with people from Jurong JC. And that he used to tell me to mix only with the “right” people.
And look at the few of us. We are all established in our career now, in one way or another. Do you think you have achieved that? If the answer is no, you just need to find that competitive streak that you used to have back in you. Fast. Nan reminded. In fact, you always have it. But I don't know why you seem to suppress it...
Hmmm... I think it would be easy to find back that competitive streak. But I would also like to find back my sense of “elitism-pride”, and mix with the “right” people... ...
Hmmm... some food for thoughts for me...
Friday, October 15, 2010
是傻。是笨。是自作自受。
你知道你是傻的。
当你明知你已不够睡眠 ，还有排山倒海的工作要赶，但他一通电话或一个简讯，你还是抽得出时间帮他找资料和处理一些琐碎的事情。
其实，干你什么事呀？
***
你知道你是傻的。
当你本来就是气得气孔冒烟，也越想越气到差点断气，然后告诉自己这次真的是最后一次了，不要再理他了；但他一个问候再加一点无赖式地说些无理头的东西时，你就不由自主给他逗地笑了出来。
其实，真的有这么好笑吗？
***
你应该知道这不是傻， 而是笨。 而且是笨到无药可救了。
当历史似乎好像一直从演。当你猜测他大半还是会有下一次，但你就是一次又一次心甘情愿地让他牵着鼻子走。
这也叫着 ~ 自作自受。
当你明知你已不够睡眠 ，还有排山倒海的工作要赶，但他一通电话或一个简讯，你还是抽得出时间帮他找资料和处理一些琐碎的事情。
其实，干你什么事呀？
***
你知道你是傻的。
当你本来就是气得气孔冒烟，也越想越气到差点断气，然后告诉自己这次真的是最后一次了，不要再理他了；但他一个问候再加一点无赖式地说些无理头的东西时，你就不由自主给他逗地笑了出来。
其实，真的有这么好笑吗？
***
你应该知道这不是傻， 而是笨。 而且是笨到无药可救了。
当历史似乎好像一直从演。当你猜测他大半还是会有下一次，但你就是一次又一次心甘情愿地让他牵着鼻子走。
这也叫着 ~ 自作自受。
Overheard...
X: 我承认，我确实有被他吸引到。但他是块大木头，完全不解风情。。。
Y: 但你要知道，通常会解风情的男生，大半也是情场高手，靠不住。
X: 对呀。可是，我觉得他把我所做的当作理所当然。 其实问题不在我身上。问题是他根本没把我放在心上。。。所以，我必须自己作出决定。
Hmm…
Y: 但你要知道，通常会解风情的男生，大半也是情场高手，靠不住。
X: 对呀。可是，我觉得他把我所做的当作理所当然。 其实问题不在我身上。问题是他根本没把我放在心上。。。所以，我必须自己作出决定。
Hmm…
Sunday, October 10, 2010
耍赖
推了约会；
有原因，我明白。
我也可以接受 。
但为什么这一次
我却强烈地感受到
你是在敷衍我？
你说的，我都记得。
为什么你却似记 似忘记？
我没逼你说，我没撒娇要你说。
我什么也没做。
是你自己说 我们说好的。
是因为我好骗 ，还是我容易哄？
所以你以为一通电话，草草交代几句，就能了事。
你真的很可恶。
我难过，我失望。。。
是因为你根本就没
尊重我，尊重我的时间。
是因为你根本就没
想过我的感受。
是因为你根本就没
给我机会说话。
或者，
是因为你根本就没
把它当作是一回事。
很讽刺，是吧？
有原因，我明白。
我也可以接受 。
但为什么这一次
我却强烈地感受到
你是在敷衍我？
你说的，我都记得。
为什么你却似记 似忘记？
我没逼你说，我没撒娇要你说。
我什么也没做。
是你自己说 我们说好的。
是因为我好骗 ，还是我容易哄？
所以你以为一通电话，草草交代几句，就能了事。
你真的很可恶。
我难过，我失望。。。
是因为你根本就没
尊重我，尊重我的时间。
是因为你根本就没
想过我的感受。
是因为你根本就没
给我机会说话。
或者，
是因为你根本就没
把它当作是一回事。
很讽刺，是吧？
Monday, October 04, 2010
曾经听过，随便说说。。。
- 爱情是拿来培养和经营的； 不是用来考验的。
- 人言可畏。 不只这样， 有时 ，人为也可怕。 别人的言行举止，你根本就无从捉摸。有时，就连你最亲的人或朋友也可能会做出一些让你屏住呼吸和心脏停止跳动的事，让你一时不知所错，不知怎么去应付。。。
- 我们应该对彼此坦白。 背叛不可能会是意外。
- 幸福是应该努力争取的。 但如果你争取来的幸福是健在别人的痛苦上，你于心何忍？说到底，你最终的决定在于你的价值观。。。
- 有些男人有钱就变坏。没错。 但这类会变坏的男人，没钱也好不到那里去。